Marriage Can Be Tough… Let Me Help!
Are you fighting a lot with your partner about money, finances, children, or any other major life challenge?
Are you finding yourself thinking more about divorce then you are about staying married?
Are you trying to connect with your partner, only to find that the more you try to talk, the more you yell at one another?
Are you finding yourself having a hard time letting go of past hurts?
Do you long for the opportunity to have a conversation with your partner, that doesn’t end in slammed doors, insults, and discord?
Have you become desensitized to verbal and emotionally abusive language?
Is infertility or some other health condition putting a strain on your marriage?
Are you finding yourself growing away from your partner?
Has your partner been unfaithful and you have decided to stay in the marriage but can’t find a way to forgive?
Has your partner been unfaithful and have decided to leave, but don’t know how to so peacefully?
Are you the one that cheated?
Has the silent treatment replaced your long and intimate conversations of the past?
Do you wish desperately to have the relationship that you previously had with your partner when you fell in love?
With hectic schedules and daily responsibilities, couples often find themselves not having as much time as they would like to focus on their relationship. Over time, when partners neglect the relationship, they slowly drift apart and may loose sight of previously shared goals, dreams, and aspirations. Keeping your relationship a priority can be especially tricky during times of stress or major life transitions such as having a child or taking care of an elderly parent.
It may feel like your relationship changed overnight, but most often it takes days, weeks, and years to become disconnected from one another. Relationships aren’t easy. Every relationship goes through ups and downs throughout the course of life. However, when a couple stops working on their relationship, the relationship stops working! Lasting, healthy relationships take hard work and commitment from both partners.
Due to the intertwined and recursive nature of relationships, when one partner struggles with something such as depression, anxiety, grief/loss, trauma, work related stress, or professional burnout, it undeniably effects their partner. If a person’s relationship with themselves, others, and/or their profession isn’t in a good place, it will eventually effect their quality of life and their relationships. In order to experience connectivity and intimacy with your partner, you also need to have a healthy and harmonious relationship with yourself.
Couples seek therapeutic support for many different reasons. The length of couples therapy depends on the context and severity of the presenting problems as well as the couple’s strengths and resources. Although some couples wait until they are in crisis or “on the brink”, couples can benefit from the therapeutic process at any stage in their relationship. We have experience working with couples of all ages as well as diverse cultural, familial, and religious backgrounds. Couples therapy includes pre-marital counseling, marital counseling, and counseling for heterosexual as well as gay, lesbian, and bi-sexual couples.
I Help Couples With…
Couples face challenges from communication break downs, work related stress, complex in-law relationships, parenting issues, pre-marital counseling, infertility or reproductive challenges, and some question whether they have fallen out of love with one another. Whether you or your partner feels unhappy in the relationship or unsure about the level of commitment to the relationship, couples therapy can help you reveal and interrupt the repetitive patterns that keep you stuck. We seek to identify unresolved or underlying issues that contribute to the reoccurring problems.
Couples also seek therapy for problems related to mistrust, betrayal, or physical/emotional infidelity. Once trust is broken in a relationship, it is difficult to repair, but not impossible. When couples are in tune with one another and follow through with their commitments, trust can be rebuilt over time. Trust is an action, not a state of mind.
Enhance Your Connection & Communication
Effective communication and conflict management are key for any happy and healthy couples. As a couples therapist, we support each partner in refining their own style of communication. Couples therapy helps partners to listen and respond more effectively within every day life as well as during times of difficulty. Conflict is natural and healthy for relationships as long as it is managed effectively. Our role is to facilitate a safe and balanced dialogue between partners to illuminate various strengths, resources, past successes, and solution building attempts both individually and relationally.
I help couples facilitate positive change and growth though using brief and effective strategies. Because we can’t go back and change the past, we tend to focus more on helping couples create the changes they desire in the present while nurturing hopes for their future. Couples therapy can enable partners to experience more enjoyment, connectivity, and satisfaction in their relationship again. In order to sustain a lasting, intimate connection with one another, couples must prioritize their relationship; feel a fondness and admiration for one another; effectively manage conflict; continuously nurture their friendship; and be willing to accept influence from one another.
In situations where couples aren’t able to forgive certain betrayals, find mutual respect for one another, or reconnect on their life paths, I also support them in the difficult process of bringing their relationship to an end.