Learning that your partner has had an affair, is likely one of the hardest things you will ever experience. On behalf of mankind, we express empathy for you, if that is your experience.
But even if that is the case, you can still experience happiness after learning of an affair.
Here are three empowerment strategies that I recommend implementing after you find out your partner has cheated:
Take a vacation.
Sometimes, staying in the same place can be challenging after learning of an affair. Seeing the same people, same lifestyle, and the same environment, can remind you of the pain that you felt after learning of your partner’s infidelity. It can also lend to feelings of hopelessness, almost as if it reinforces the
notion that your life is bad and will not change. To take control of this, change your environment by booking a vacation, even if it’s only for going to the beach for a weekend or booking a hotel in a different city. You will be exposed to a different setting that provides a safe place to encounter your emotions. Vacations can also help you return to your own environment with a fresh perspective.
Spruce up your social media.
Sometimes, it’s just best to show people who hurt us, that we are resilient. Even if your pride is at stake, you will feel better by getting this message across to your cheating partner. Besides, chances are, even if your ex is not watching your social media, someone else is. By creating a more elaborate image of yourself, not only will it boost your own sense of self-worth, by showing you areas of your life that you can be proud of, but it will also provide your ex with an opportunity to see how well you are doing irrespective of his cheating.
Meet other people.
After learning about your partner’s infidelity, it’s easy to feel alone. By socially meeting other people, especially if you can do so without emotionally getting involved, you are opening up an opportunity to meet others and heal from the betrayal. Just because one person betrays you, does not mean that others will not. By giving yourself an opportunity to meet other people, you can break down barriers that typically arise after emotional betrayal and live the life that you deserve.
Infidelity sucks, but it is survivable. If you need help working through infidelity yourself, please schedule your FREE 15 minute consultation with us.